Many men struggle to understand why their female friend won\u2019t date them, assuming that attraction and being a good boyfriend go hand in hand. But in reality, these are two separate things.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A woman may recognize that you have the qualities she wants in a boyfriend, yet still choose to remain friends while dating men who lack those qualities. Why? Because attraction comes first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
A woman can feel drawn to a man who isn\u2019t necessarily a good boyfriend. Just because he\u2019s unreliable, toxic, or even a cheater doesn\u2019t mean she\u2019ll stop being attracted to him. That\u2019s why you see women staying with men who aren\u2019t good for them\u2014because attraction isn\u2019t a logical decision.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Likewise, being a \u201cgood boyfriend\u201d doesn\u2019t automatically create attraction. Many guys think that being loyal, caring, and doing everything \u201cright\u201d should make them desirable. While these qualities are essential in a relationship, they don\u2019t inherently spark attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
At the same time, acting like a \u201cbad boy\u201d or a \u201cdouche\u201d doesn\u2019t guarantee attraction either. Attraction isn\u2019t about morality\u2014women aren\u2019t rewarding or punishing men with love and sex based on their actions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The key is understanding that attraction is based on survival values and fitness indicators. It\u2019s ignited by your subconscious behavior that consistently communicates your weaknesses or strengths .<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Toxic men often seem to have more success because they seem competent and dominant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
On the other hand, many \u201cnice guys\u201d fail because they are submissive and aggregable. They\u2019re always available, predictable, and never create excitement, uncertainty, or challenge. While they might seem like a great boyfriend on paper, they don\u2019t stimulate triggers that fuel attraction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The solution isn\u2019t to be toxic, but to understand how to display survival values\u2014through being assertive, confident, and dominant. <\/p>\n\n\n\n