You’ve probably heard it before: Stop putting women on a pedestal. They’re just people. They have flaws. They go to the bathroom like everyone else.
But here’s the thing—before you can stop putting a woman above you, you have to stop acting like you’re beneath her. That means shifting your mindset from seeking her approval to seeing her as an equal.
The real issue isn’t that you think she’s perfect—it’s that you don’t believe you are good enough.
If you don’t genuinely value yourself, no amount of logic—no “she’s just human too” reminder—will change the way you feel when she tests you, shows disinterest, or doesn’t respond as you’d hoped. Instead, your mind will spiral into self-doubt:
“I shouldn’t have approached her… She probably thinks I’m weird or unattractive… I knew a girl like her would never be interested in me… I’m making a fool of myself… Why did I even try?”
At that moment, you’re not seeing her flaws or treating her like a regular person. You’re projecting your insecurities onto her, assuming she’s judging you, and ultimately rejecting yourself before she even has the chance to.
The Key Shift: Detaching Self-Worth from Rejection
To break free from this cycle, you need to stop seeing women as tools for self-affirmation. A woman liking you is not proof that you’re worthy. A woman rejecting you is not proof that you’re not.
Rejection isn’t a judgment of your value—it’s simply a lack of connection. It just means your personalities, emotions, and chemistry don’t align. And that’s normal.
When you make peace with rejection and stop letting it dictate your self-esteem, everything changes. You start approaching interactions with curiosity, playfulness, and confidence—not neediness or pressure.
And that shift is powerful.
Because when you stop chasing validation and instead focus on genuine connection, attraction happens naturally. Women can sense when you’re comfortable in your own skin, and that energy is magnetic.
So stop trying to “win” someone over. Stop thinking you need to prove yourself. Instead, show up as your best, most confident self and let the right connections happen effortlessly.
That’s when the game stops feeling like a struggle—and starts feeling like fun.